These strange childfree - does the world threaten childlessness?
Anyone more or less familiar with the basics of English can easily translate the word "childfree" - free from children. It sounds, in fact, absurd. Our culture, traditions, mentality does not imply the abandonment of procreation. For the vast majority of us, having children is as natural as breathing. But after all, the childfree movement exists all over the world, its supporters have a clear life position, they are ready to promote and defend their worldview, sometimes very aggressively and even aggressively.
Childfree - who are they?
Let's try to figure out who they are, these childfree. Are these people normal, why do they consciously deprive themselves of the joy of motherhood and fatherhood, is their philosophy dangerous for society?
To begin, let's make a reservation - those who are medically unable to have children, have no relationship to childfree.
In addition, there are people who deliberately chose childlessness,but they do not impose their own opinion on anyone, in principle, they treat the alien children quite well and do not show any aggression towards dissenters. These are called childless (having no children). Of course, such a division is conditional, but it allows you to better understand the position of each category of childless.
After all, there is also such a term as childhate (hating children). But this is a special case, because such unnatural and sensible people are not just alarming, but plunges into shock. A reasonable question arises - what is going on in your souls and brains, gentlemen childless?
I would also like to know: is it being treated or is modern science considering such behavior as the norm? It also concerns the social aspect of the problem: suddenly it will become a trend and more and more people will refuse to give birth to heirs and new members of society.
Where did the childfree movement come to us
It is easy to guess that from the outside, or rather from the American California. There, in the 1970s, the Non-Parents Organization was created to defend the right of everyone not to want to have children (now it no longer exists). And then this position became a sensation.
In continuation of the topic of human rights protection in the 1990s, the Childfree Network community was created. His ideologue, teacher Leslie Lafayette, protected childless families from discrimination by the state.And off we go: like-minded people have begun to actively unite, communicate, publicly argue their position and spread the ideas of childfree throughout the wide world.
There is a version that overseas intervention left its mark in reducing fertility in our open spaces. It is claimed that when the Union collapsed, the plan of US Secretary of State Henry Kissinger to reduce the birth rate in 13 countries - suppliers of natural resources for American consumption, has spread to our territories.
The Russian Family Planning Association (RAPS), which was subsequently banned, became a conduit for such ideas. The purpose of its activities was to reduce the number of inhabitants planned until 2050. There should have been no more than 121 million.
For this, each family could have only one child. Okay, China with its more than one billion people. But in Russia there are already demographic problems in some regions (the Far East, Siberia). How not to give birth to new inhabitants of the country?
Are childfrey coming?
But there are many of them who do not want to continue their race. No one can tell you exact figures, because the population censuses record the number of all the childless (forced and voluntary), and random surveys provide only an approximate picture.However, it is known that in the same States there are more than 40 childfree organizations and in each one several thousand supporters of childlessness.
In addition, an increasing number of women who do not want to have children, such as 25%. Europe is not far behind. Lonely residents of the Old World is now about 40%. And in Munich, childless bachelors - a good half of the population, and yet this is a prosperous German city. Of course, not all of them are childfree, but the numbers are impressive.
Our situation is also alarming: a normal demographic indicator is considered to be the birth of 215 children per 100 women, and the real indicators are much lower - about 125 babies. The number of abortions is also scary: 7 per 10 pregnancies. What happens in the world? Why does the deliberate refusal to give birth to offspring in some countries become rampant?
Childfree - why are they
Psychologists give different reasons for why people practice childfree philosophy. The legacy of a difficult childhood could have played a big role: the child was subjected to physical violence by parents, moral dictation, was brought up outside the family, in an orphanage or children's home, a boarding school. Children's memories are painful for them and there is a desire to preventrepetition of their history - it’s better not to have any heirs at all.
Particularly painful consequences cause conflicts with her mother. Reproaches like - I gave you everything, and you? Why did I give birth to you at all? No thanks from you - in the future they can easily discourage a mature girl from wanting to be a mother.
Very few people work out their problems with a psychologist, and the seeds of childfree adepts fall on fertile soil.
In a small part of ideological childless, another reason is infertility. Here, as it were, the defense mechanism turns on, the justification of medical reasons, if I may say so, “high matters”.
There is such a banal explanation of the commitment to the movement of childfree, as human egoism. After all, a child is not a toy, it requires attention, constant care, investing of forces (both material and spiritual), responsibility, in the end. And people are not ready to endure certain hardships, even for the sake of children, they want to manage their lives as they please. Much nicer heart seals, hamsters and dogs. On the child of their love is not enough.
Some justify the reluctance to have offspring of a person’s desire for choice (as a psychological quality).Children - constant efforts and work, and childlessness - freedom of action, self-realization, reduction of financial costs, a more relaxed nervous system. Choose what is closer to you.
There are people who do not need children to fill their lives with meaning and happiness. Some women have no need for motherhood. And no matter how paradoxical it may seem to most of us, in reality this is the reality.
To find out the values of modern Russians, a special survey was conducted. The first group included childfree, and the second people who have children or want to have them.
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A person has the right to choose how to live. But! Let's not forget the important thing. You can even respect (if possible) someone's conscious refusal to continue the race. Just do not need anyone to prove its correctness, do not need to urge to follow his example, it is unacceptable to offend those who see the meaning of their lives in children
But on the childfree forums, they sometimes write this - it doesn't fit in my head.We will not repeat the epithets with which the aggressive childless reward caring moms and their babies.
Childhate - detonators are especially zealous. They are annoyed by children in society as such - they cry, act up in public places, run around, get confused under their feet. Yes, even give them a place in transport, and the state - allocate funds for all sorts of benefits, payments and benefits. By the way, the last is already more social aspect of the problem.
Is childfree dangerous to society?
Childfrey preach the idea of a world without children. It seems to such people that society forces them to acquire offspring, imposes alien family values. So they protest. And they also demand to expand special childfree zones - restaurants, cinemas, airplanes, hotels without children. By the way, all this exists, so the rights of childfree are hardly infringed.
In fairness it should be noted that the unwillingness of many to bear children is explained by quite prosaic reasons. People are afraid of instability, the inability to provide not only the future, but the present of their offspring. Problems with work, economic turmoil, rising prices, lack of adequate state support - these factors cannot be ignored.These are our realities, but let's pay attention to one paradox.
Where give birth more - in economically prosperous countries or in underdeveloped? The answer is obvious - of course, in the second. There, people are often illiterate, but religious. And any faith only supports the desire to continue his race. Even in our difficult and hungry times even our ancestors said - God gave the child, he will give to the child.
And in countries with a high standard of living, people are starting to think more about their own self-realization in their careers, in their hobbies, traveling and other forms of leisure. What kind of kids are there? The role of mothers is becoming less and less of a priority for most Western women.
Yes, and we have more and more prosperous, quite well-to-do couples choose childfree lifestyle. Although the traditions of our society are still strong, where childlessness is rather an exception to the rules. The birth of children is so natural, even in single-parent families.
In general, we have a negative attitude to childfree, calling them barren flowers, terry egoists, frightened by loneliness in old age and the future regret of aimlessly lived years. They even urge to ban legislatively Internet forums of childfree so that propaganda infection does not affect the immature minds of young people.
But supporters of the childfrey movement will tell you in detail and in detail why it is harmful to acquire offspring - this is supposedly getting fat and stupid, and in general it is not necessary to be like animals with their breeding instinct. The planet is already overpopulated, where else to be fruitful. Iron arguments, to be sure.
Convinced chayldfri never understand all the charm of motherhood, the tears of emotion and happiness from the first smile of the baby, his agukaniya and rattling, tentative uncertain steps. And how much more will Mom and Dad have to go through with their offspring! But this is not for the selfish childfree, which imaginary freedom is more precious than the joy of becoming parents.
And if the reluctance to have children in youth is quite understandable (not grown), then at a rather mature age, the negative attitude towards children in general can already be called pathology.
Pessimists with a gloomy outlook on life also often join the ranks of childfree. They do not believe that the future will be brighter and more joyful. And if everything is so neglected and will continue to be even worse, then you need to live for yourself, to the fullest, with the maximum of available pleasures. What kind of children are there ...But no matter what they say and whatever the ardent supporters of childfree propagandize, what is really going on in their souls, we do not know. Would they regret their choice?
The principle of tolerance encourages us to respect the opinions of others. Perhaps people who love children, too, should not be so violently attacking childfree. Let them live as they see fit. Mutual attacks and senseless disputes in social networks and forums are unlikely to convince anyone. A negative in our life, and so lacking.
I just really want to ask the convinced childfree - why did you come to this world? Consider: why don't you give a little man a chance to be born? What if he grows up a genius, although it’s not even that important. He's your piece, flesh of flesh, but he just - a miracle!